If You Are Being Stalked

You might be feeling a variety of emotions and that is normal.
Some stalking victims feel frustrated, angry, unsafe, fearful, anxious and depressed. For others, they feel confused, tired, stressed and have difficulty with eating and sleeping. All of these are common reactions to being stalked. Regardless of how you are feeling, you know best.

Trust your instincts. Stalking can be dangerous and may escalate over time.
Many stalkers will engage in behaviors that are threatening, harassing and seem unpredictable. A stalker may send cards or gifts to the victim and may retaliate by leaving angry messages when the victim does not respond in a way that the stalker wants. In some instances, the victim and people the victim cares about may be harmed. If possible and safe, communicate to the stalker, either in writing or verbally, that you want the stalking behavior to cease. Tell him/her just once and do not have further contact. Confronting or talking to the stalker does not always stop the behavior. The stalker may interpret any additional interaction with you as a sign that his/her efforts to engage you are working.

What can I do if I am being stalked?

Document everything related to the stalking.
Keep an incident log, journal and/or calendar with detailed information about the stalking. Be sure to record every incident, including what the stalker was doing, saying (use direct quotes), wearing, driving (license plate number), etc. Record the names and contact information for anyone who witnessed the stalking.

Contact law enforcement to report what is happening to you.
Be sure to relay important information such as: the stalker's name (if known to you), the date, time, and specific details about what the stalker did, and tell them about any evidence that you may have that is related to the incident. Additionally, tell law enforcement about any previous actions that may have been taken against the stalker e.g. warning to stay away or protection orders. Document for your records any communication with law enforcement, including officer names and case numbers.

Safety Planning
If you suspect you are being followed or if you are being threatened, harassed, or intimidated by someone, you may want to consider putting together a safety plan. An advocate from your local crisis center can help you do this. Click here to find a center in your community. Click this link for additional safety suggestions.

 

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Call our hotlines anywhere in New Hampshire for support. Stalking victims should call the Domestic Violence Hotline. TTY available at 1-800-Relay-NH.

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