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Child Sexual Abuse

Sexual abuse of children is a devastating and widespread problem in our society.  Children are most often sexually victimized by someone they know; often it is someone they know well.  The violation of trust inherent in such abuse can be physically and emotionally devastating and is further complicated when the perpetrator is a parent, step-parent, family member, family friend or other acquaintance. 

The myth of "stranger danger"
Many parents teach their children about "stranger danger," and it is wise to give children basic safety rules about strangers. But the fact is that the vast majority of perpetrators of child sexual assault are known to the victim. It is also important to talk to children about personal body safety, good and bad secrets and what to do if anyone speaks to them or touches them in a way that makes them uncomfortable.

Anyone aware of abuse of a child is required by New Hampshire law to report the abuse to the Division of Children, Youth and Families. You can also contact your local crisis center for information and support.

Signs of Sexual Abuse:

  • Physical signs of sexual abuse are not common, although redness, rashes or swelling in the genital area, urinary tract infections or other such symptoms should be carefully investigated. Also, physical problems associated with anxiety, such as chronic stomach pain or headaches, may occur.
  • Emotional or behavioral signals are more common. These can run from “too perfect” behavior, to withdrawal and depression, to unexplained anger and rebellion.
  • Sexual behavior and language that are not age-appropriate can be a red flag.
  • Be aware that in some children there are no signs whatsoever.

If your child has been sexually assaulted:

Obtain assistance for your child, yourself and your family. Under New Hampshire Law, abuse of a child under the age of 18 must be reported to the New Hampshire Division for Children, Youth, and Families. Contact your local crisis center for information on options available to you and your child.
Stick to family routines as much as possible.
Take time to think before answering your child's questions. You can tell your child:
  • I believe you. 
  • It was not your fault. 
  • I'm not angry with you, I am angry with the person who assaulted you. 
  • Telling was the right thing to do. 
  • I'm sorry this happened to you. 
  • I don't know the answer, but I will try to find it for you. 
  • This has happened to other children and families. 
  • We will get through this. 
  • Sexual assault is against the law. 
  • I will do my best to protect you.

*Source: “7 Steps to Protecting Our Children” by Darkness to Light"

Prevention Education in New Hampshire

Coalition Member Programs offer free school and community-based sexual and domestic abuse programs across New Hampshire. Programs are age-appropriate, evidence informed, and aligned with the New Hampshire Department of Education curriculum requirements. Professional staff are trained in classroom education, victim advocacy, and violence prevention and have expertise in handling disclosures and linking students, parents, and teachers to support and services. The Member Programs of NHCADSV provide education to 50,000 youth and adults annually and have programs in approximately 130 schools and youth-serving institutions in the state.  

If you are interested in having a one-time or ongoing educational program held at your school or in your community you can learn more here or contact NHCADSV's Prevention Coordinator

Online Resources:

NH Bureau of Child Protection Services
NH's Network of Child Advocacy Centers
National Center for Missing and Exploited Children
Darkness to Light
1 in 6: Support for male survivors of childhood sexual assault
The American Academy of Pediatrics Parent Tips for Preventing and Identifying Child Sexual Abuse

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Call our hotlines anywhere in New Hampshire for support. Stalking victims should call the Domestic Violence Hotline. TTY available at 1-800-Relay-NH.