Violence in  a Relationship is Never Justified

Safety Suggestions

If you suspect you are being followed or if you are being threatened, harassed, or intimidated by someone, you may want to consider the following:

  • Utilize the law enforcement community and courts.
  • Speak with your local crisis center about obtaining a Restraining Order.
  • Develop a safety plan with your local crisis center.
  • Change the locks of your home and/or car.
  • Avoid walking alone. Always be aware of your surroundings.
  • Alternate daily driving routes and keep car doors locked at all times, even when in use.
  • Park in well-lit areas, obtain a locking gas cap, and always visually check the front and rear passenger areas and under the car before entering your vehicle.
  • In case you are being followed know the locations of both the police and fire stations. Find out if that department is open 24 hours a day.
  • Keep an emergency bag packed with clothing, money, emergency telephone numbers, etc.
  • Report all threats sent by mail to the local police or the FBI.
  • Alert neighbors and your landlord about what is happening, and have a prearranged code or signal in case the stalker is near or at your home.
  • Post a "No Trespassing" sign on the edge of your property where it is clearly visible.
  • Be aware of places a stalker could hide, install outdoor lighting, and check to be sure existing lighting works.
  • Be protective of your social security number, it is the key to all of your information. Only give it out if you are required to do so.
  • If you move do not leave a "paper trail." Don't have anything forwarded (mail, newspapers, and magazines subscriptions, telephone number, etc.) Take all medical immunization records (especially for your children) with you.
  • Contact the three credit bureaus: TRW, Equifax, and Trans Union. Let them know of your situation and ask them to flag your record.
  • If you receive threatening calls report it to your phone company.
  • Always carry a cell phone. If you are being followed call 9-1-1 and go to a busy place.
Technology Tips
  • Get an additional unlisted phone line and keep the information confidential.
  • Keep your old phone number with your answering machine/voice mail connected. Save messages or caller ID numbers for evidence.
  • If you cannot afford an additional phone line, ask your phone company about getting a second ring tone that distinguishes your new phone number from your old phone number.
  • Avoid calling 800 or 900 phone numbers. If you need to call one of these services use a payphone.
  • Don't leave your cell phone unattended.
  • Set the GPS in your cell phone so it is only accessible by 9-1-1. Contact your wireless provider for more information.
  • Notify your internet service provider if you receive harassing messages via the web.
  • Consider safety when using computers. Go to locations like a public library where the computer can't be monitored or hacked into.
  • Filtering capabilities of your email program can block email from certain addresses.

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Call our hotlines anywhere in New Hampshire for support. Stalking victims should call the Domestic Violence Hotline. TTY available at 1-800-Relay-NH.

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