Help a family member or a friend who has been sexually assaulted
The support and understanding of family and friends can be very helpful to a sexual assault victim. There are many ways you can specifically do this:
Listen to what he or she says and ask how you can help before doing anything.
Believe your friend and let her or him know you support her or him.
Don’t blame your friend for what happened. Let your friend know it wasn’t her or his fault.
Help your friend make his or her own decisions, instead of pressuring her or him to do what you think is best.
Encourage the person to seek medical attention and contact a local sexual violence program.
Don’t confront the person who committed the assault. It could create an unsafe situation for you or your friend.
Get help for yourself if you’re feeling overwhelmed or frightened. Find someone you can talk to about those feelings. Support and information for you and your friend is available through the statewide sexual assault hotline 1-800-277-5570. To find a support center in your area go to our member program page.
Phrases you can use to help
“Nothing you did (or didn’t do) makes you deserve this.” or “It’s not your fault.”
The 13 member programs of the New Hampshire Coalition Against Domestic and Sexual Violence provide services regardless of gender,age, health status (including HIV-positive), physical, mental or emotional ability, sexual orientation, gender identity/expression, socio-economic status, race, national origin, immigration status or religious or political affiliation.