Most stalking victims are pursued by current or former intimate partners. Stalking can occur during the relationship or once it ends. It is important to note that a stalker can be someone the victim doesn’t know at all. Stalking victims are often living in fear for their safety. Below are tips on how to help a friend who is being stalked. For further information speak with an advocate at your local domestic violence program. Advocates can be reached through the statewide 24 hour hotline 1-866-644-3574.
Listen without judgement
Take the matter seriously
Do not blame the victim for the stalker’s actions Remember that the victim is not responsible for the stalker’s behavior.
Discuss reporting options Encourage your friend to take the matter seriously and to report the stalking behavior to law enforcement. Link to NH laws.
Discuss support services Encourage your friend to speak with an advocate at their local domestic violence program who can help your friend apply for a stalking order of protection and develop a safety plan.
Be patient Remember, it will take your friend some time to heal from the situation. Your friend may likely feel paranoid or anxious.
Take care of yourself, too Get help for yourself if you’re feeling overwhelmed or frightened. Find someone you can talk to about those feelings. Support and information for you and your friend is available through the statewide sexual assault hotline 1-800-277-5570. To find a support center in your area go to our member program page.
The 13 member programs of the New Hampshire Coalition Against Domestic and Sexual Violence provide services regardless of gender,age, health status (including HIV-positive), physical, mental or emotional ability, sexual orientation, gender identity/expression, socio-economic status, race, national origin, immigration status or religious or political affiliation.