Bystanders can be the real heroes and make a critical difference in everyday situations!

When you HEAR someone making offensive comments or jokes about domestic violence or sexual assault, step in and say it’s not okay and it’s not funny. Don’t be afraid to be the “uncool” or “uptight” one. Chances are that most of the people around you feel the same way as you do, but are scared to speak up.

If you NOTICE that your friend is putting down their partner all the time, or controlling their actions, let them know it’s not right, and that their behavior is abusive.

When you SEE someone assaulting someone or inappropriately touching someone, do something. Call the police or stand up for the victim (as long as it’s safe to do so.)

When you FEEL that a situation isn’t right, if think someone is too drunk to consent to sex or is in an unsafe situation, step in and get help.

When you READ about something that denigrates victims or seems unjust, make a comment, write a letter to the editor. Let people know it’s not okay.

Helpful Links

Prevention Innovations of the University of New Hampshire

Being an Active Bystander at UNH

NSVC Engaging Bystanders to Prevent Sexual Violence Resource List

Be an Active Bystander, Virginia Tech

A Call to Men

Men Can Stop Rape

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