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what is domestic violence?

Domestic violence is a pattern of coercive behavior used by one person to gain and maintain power and control over another in the context of an intimate or familial relationship.

Domestic violence can happen to anyone- adult women and men, teenagers, people who are mentally and physically disabled, and the elderly – regardless of race, sexual orientation, gender identity, ability, or economic status.

It may include:
  • Physical violence
  • Sexual violence
  • Stalking
  • Verbal, emotional, mental/psychological, and/or economic abuse
  • Threats, pushing, punching, slapping, strangulation, shouting, and/or name-calling
  • Harming or threatening to harm children or pets, and other violent or intimidating behaviors
  • Isolation from family and friends
  • Rarely a one-time occurrence, domestic violence usually escalates in frequency and severity over time.
  • Abusers batter to control and dominate their partners

financial abuse 

Financial abuse is a form of domestic violence and is a commonly used tactic by perpetrators to trap their partner in the relationship. ​Financial abuse prevents victims from acquiring, using or maintaining financial resources. Approximately 99% of those who have been victim of domestic violence experience financial abuse.  ​

unique challenges facing victims

  • Men are less likely to report the intimate partner violence and seek services due to several factors:

    • The stigma of being a male victim

    • The perceived failure to conform to the macho stereotype

    • The fear of not being believed

    • The denial of victim status

    • And the lack of support from society, family members, friends.

    According to the National Center for Victims of Crime men experience many of the same psychological reactions to violence as women. These include:

    • Guilt, shame, humiliation

    • Anger and anxiety

    • Depression

    • Withdrawal from relationships.

  • • Statistically, individuals with disabilities are just as likely to experience domestic violence, however it often lasts for longer periods of time

    • Research has shown that individuals with disabilities are at an increased risk for experiencing violence in residential settings, including group homes, hospitals and other residential programs.

    • Individuals with disabilities have reported limited access to safety and support services available in their communities and an extreme loss of power and control when their abuser is also their caretaker.

    Red flags for an abusive or potentially abusive caregiver

    Safety of Your Child With a Disability

    Tips for Communicating with Survivors with Cognitive Disabilities

    Tips on what to do when an individual with a disability discloses abuse

    Tips for Parents: Talking to Your Child with a Disability about Sexuality

    Tips for Working with Sexual Abuse Survivors Who Have Disabilities

  • • Distrust of law enforcement, criminal justice system, and social services.

    • Lack of service providers that look like the survivor or share common experiences.

    • Lack of culturally and linguistically appropriate services.

    • Fear that their experience will reflect on or confirm the stereotypes placed on their ethnicity.

    • Assumptions of providers based on ethnicity.

    • Attitudes and stereotypes about the prevalence of domestic violence and sexual assault in communities of color.

  • • All aspects of a child’s life are affected when a child grows up in a violent home. Domestic violence may make children less likely to succeed in school and more likely to face a host of health problems that can last throughout their lives. These effects can be mitigated by the presence of a stable and loving adult caregiver who is supported by a community that recognized the impact of violence.

    • Children may be physically, emotionally and cognitively damaged as a result of domestic violence.

    • When supporting a child that has been exposed to domestic violence, it may be helpful to:

    • Foster children's self-esteem - children who live with violence may need reminders that they are lovable, competent and important.

    • Teach alternatives to violence - help children learn conflict resolution skills and about non-violent ways of playing.

    • Help children know what to expect by developing a routine - Offer a structured environment where children can predict what will come next.

know the signs of abuse

All forms of abuse- verbal, emotional, psychological, economic and physical – come from the batterer’s desire for power and control. ​Knowing the series of behaviors typically demonstrated by batterers and abusive people can help you identify red flags of an unhealthy/abusive relationships. 

Barriers to Leaving

  • Fear of escalating violence or death
  • Fear of losing custody of their children
  • Cultural or religious values
  • The hope that the batterer can change
  • The batterer threatens suicide or other self-destructive behavior
  • Lack of financial independence

Research shows the most dangerous time for a victim in an abusive relationship is when that person decides to leave.

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